It's Official - Here's the New Asexuality Flag; Final Updates and Thoughts

We've reached the finish line, obashata~

Since launching the first iteration of the New Asexuality flag I purposed on April 6th, and then April 18th, I’ve received an overwhelming amount of commentary. Yet again, many [most white] queer people who’ve only started to care & pay attention to this have shared their frustrations around this change. Not only have they expressed frustration, but a lot of statements that have been fueled with rude backlash and high charged responses regarding my desire to move towards this direction. ‘Who do you think you are?’ ‘Who made you the authority?’ ‘THIS ISN’T MY FLAG’ ‘WE’RE JUST GETTING RECOGNITION NOW AND YOU WANT TO CHANGE THE FLAG!?’ Amongst so many other comments across Meta Platforms [Facebook & Instagram posts linked below]:

New Asexuality Flag [Instagram] -April 19th

New Asexuality Flag [Facebook] -April 19th]

It’s not something I ‘wasn’t’ expecting, to be quite frank, I took my time to launch this because I was gearing up for the vitriol that occurs when Any Person of Colour, especially Black Queer Women, dare to challenge systems & take the necessary steps towards changing Anything in society. Even still, I was taken aback. Despite acknowledging and wanting more from each other as we’re trying to gain recognition in the world, it’s showed me our community has never had a strong foundation in the first place. It’s been a very eye opening experience, to say the least. Regardless, those who have been here from the start of this move towards change, as well as those who’ve only joined the conversation recently, have provided amazing feedback and support as I’ve moved towards finalizing this design. I appreciate folks who’ve seen the rudeness, tone policing, harsh speech towards me and have taken it upon themselves to advocate for me & this change to move forward. I’ve gotta say, that’s true Allyship right there 😉

I’d like to take some time to share some of the feedback, since introducing this, below:

• Reducing the colours from 6-7 [Allowing ease of reproduction].

• Including the Spectrum of Sexual Intimacy to the White Stripe [Asexuals have been seen as permanently sexual adverse/negative/repulsed, this addition was added to to be inclusive to Asexuals who are Sex-Positive /Favourable].

• Deepening the colour Pastel Yellow, brightening the Cream Colour, Brighten the Pink for more contrasting colours & for visual accessibility.

• Including ‘Self Love’ into the Pink stripe, to include those who do not align with the other types of love mentioned.

• Including Intersectionality into the Yellow Stripe:

  • Multiculturalism primarily recognizes and respects diverse cultural identities within a society, focusing on inclusion while Intersectionality is a framework highlighting how identities like race, gender, and ability do not exist separately but are interwoven, shaping power structures and individual lived experiences. Both pieces are important.

• Including different types of Intimacy to the White Stripe [Acknowledging the value in all forms of intimacy within our community; Sexual, Emotional, Intellectual, etc]

From these changes, as well as the others shared, I’ve come to a final design with updated meanings to each colour below:

Here are the updated meanings:

Black: Represents Support, Understanding, Awareness and Appreciation

Grey: Acknowledges Asexuality as a Spectrum of identities [Including Grey, Demi and MircoLabels]

White: Represents the Spectrum of Intimacy Experienced [Sexual, Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, etc]

Dandelion Yellow: Represents Multiculturalism, Intersectionality, and Joy within the Asexual Community. Promoting all activities & experiences that allow us to enhance our joy, while consciously strengthening our bonds with one another.

Pink: Represents & Acknowledges that the love we experience is true, expansive and diverse [Centers all forms of love; Self Love, Romantic, Platonic, QPR & Aromantic]

Purple/Dark Fuchsia: Represents Visibility of the Asexual Community; encouraging purposeful efforts to protect and uplift oneself, and each other, within our the society.

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Tada! Here’s the New Asexuality Flag as of April 22nd, 2026!! Thank you to everyone provided insight, value, support and suggestions towards the final version. Frankly, I think this flag is Pretty AF and is a brighter, more comprehensive and intentional symbol of Asexuality. With all the work & effort I’ve put into this, having so many community members helping push this forward has brought me so much joy. It’s been heartwarming to hear feedback, especially from Aces of Colour, who’ve shared their disconnect within this community over the years and they way this New Flag allows them to finally find alignment and comfort in their identity.

To note; In many ways, I plan on continuing to move this forward, on and offline. More around this experience will be shared [trust], while providing room to elaborate on the ways this can be used in the future from folks in community; I do plan on reach out with production as well as! I’m so excited to see all the things that come and the ways we move forward towards establishing it in our own unique ways.

We also have to be mindful; for this change to stick and grown outside of Ace In Grace/online spaces, people need to learn how to speak up about this. There needs to be conversations, intentional dialogue, along with the visual change, for people, in and out of the Asexual community, to understand the value and importance of this New Flag being used. Progress doesn’t stop online, it moves offline and into our society when we are all active participants in the change we want to see.

The reason why this is happening is because of what I’ve seen over the years of me being in this community [as a lay person, educator, organizer, speaker and therapist] and my desire to continue uplifting each other by focusing on this change from within. Again, this is not a replacement of the old flag, this is an addition, a needed refresh, to the growing community of Asexual People around the world who desire & deserve adequate representation. If you do not feel pulled to use this, the old flag will always be there, there’s no offense made there. Preferably, the goal is to use both in tandem; this highlights the progression of our community. I want this to create better opportunities for Ace Babes, and those who advocates for us, to speak more confidently about our experiences as Asexual people, across societies, while this piece aids to our history and progresses the recognition and value around advocating for intentional visibility of this identity.

As always, thanks so much for being here. Make sure to find ways to stay hydrated, well fed and rested throughout the day!

With love,

✨Ashabi / Ace In Grace✨